January 17, 2025 at 3:40 am #4424
Stuart Robinson
Participant

    Hi Steve.
    Thanks so much for your reply.
    I appreciate your perspective and wise words.
    Yes, he will make his own decisions and that’s right that he does, but I do not want him to make poor ones which are detrimental to his health and truly put it at risk.
    He’s decided that the NHS cannot fix him, so he needs to do it himself.
    This seems to involve disrespecting medical opinion to their faces and those who try to reinforce that message.
    My wife who works as a Pharmacy Dispenser spoke to her pharmacist who was “shocked” At the behaviour of the pharmacy which has taken £700 in a year in unnecessary business from my dad. I guess he’s free to throw money away on potions which are detrimental to his health though.
    I really do respect his right to be independent, but independence is maintained through having a robust support network.
    Today he jeopardised that, and so I’m standing back for awhile. His short term memory (together with his eyesight has gone) and his breathing becomes worse day by day, now.
    So, I offered to sit in on a GP call. He told me to “F Off” and the next time he wants to see me is at his funeral.

    So, I took myself off to his GP and explained the need for a hiatus from all this. I’m in pretty poor health myself, and apart from my wife I am dad’s only support.
    His surgery were extremely understanding and told me that sometimes it’s best to extricate yourself from it.
    I love my dad and am extremely conflicted, as I’m sure you can imagine.
    It leaves dad vulnerable and I fear he’ll collapse again, and this time he’ll end up in a Care Home. (Mention “Care Home” and he soars higher than an Elon Musk rocket to Mars!!!)
    On his head be it, I guess. Perhaps it’s for the best.

    May I wish you the very best on your journey with your condition.
    Leverage as much support and professional opinion as you can, where you can.

    My dad’s opinions towards the NHS are unfounded in my opinion, and I hope you might obtain support from the London suppory centre (which dad refused to go and see). I hear good things!

    Best Wishes, Stuart.